Many people did not receive enough love in their childhood, and gifts and toys and vacations were used to replace the much needed love. Many of those people will continue to look for love, in the way they know of, in the form of financial support.
For women, it shows up in women who need material goods to feel loved. Women who define being loved with how much their partner gives them.
In men it shows up, with men who are looking for love in the form of money. These men will find a way to be in a position where they rely on their female partners to be the provider, in reality they often create that because of a need to feel loved, or a need to see love the way they are use to seeing it. Their inner programming says, “to prove she loves me, she needs to provide financial support for me”.
Often, love deprived males will look for partners that replace the mother figure in their lives, and part of that role has to be of being the financial security, the provider.
What if Money was used for love in your childhood
What if that is your relationship with love and money, can you change it? Of course you can. It all starts with awareness. Once you are aware of what is going on, you can start the healing, the change of this programming.
Today’s mind technology tools, make it much easier to release beliefs, and change patterns that have been ingrained into our nervous system for years.
You can journal about the feelings, and what financial support means to you, and you can also use Emotional Freedom Techniques, EFT to break the emotional connections SO THAT, you can bring money back to its original and real meaning– which is a means of trade. Nothing more.
The best tool for changing limiting beliefs is Emotional Freedom Techniques*, EFT, and to help you change this money limiting belief, here is a tapping scrip to help you release this money belief. You may need to repeat for a few days or weeks, but its worth it, to release money from the role of being a provider of love and start a healthy relationship with money.
Money is Not Love
Even though I have this hardwiring that the more money someone gives me or spends on me, or financially supports me, means they love me, I totally and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I have been taught to see money as love, and I am always seeking to find love in money, I totally and completely love and accept myself.
Even though I have this belief that money means love, and more money means more love, I love and accept myself.
And tapping around the points:
I was brought up that way,
my parents gave me things instead of time,
my parents gave me toys and games instead of love
my parents said they work hard to get me stuff, but had no time for me,
I was brought up to feel good with the toys, the games, the clothes, the vacations
I was told i am suppose to feel good, and loved that way,
I was told to feel happy with all that stuff, even if they had no time for me,
I learned that money buys love,
I learned to see money as the provider of things that I should see as love.
I learned its better to have all that stuff than have hugs and kisses,
I learned that the way to show love is through what money can buy,
I actually thought that is how it really is, that is the way it works, and I learned to substitute my need for love with things, to accept toys and games, and clothes as the way to know I am lovable,
I use money to show love to others too, to my partner, to my kids, because that is what I know,
and I still do that, I look money for validations, I look for money to make sure I am loved, I look for material things from my partner to know how much they love me.
KC: Even though I was so sure that money means love, I am open to the idea of that may not be so true
KC: Even though I had years of believing more money means more love, I am open to the idea that I was misguided, misinformed, taught wrong,
KC: Even though I had for years thought its money that proves I am lovable, or its money that shows others I love them, I am open to changing this limiting belief now.
on the points
I choose to clear this belief, because I now know its NOT TRUE
I choose to clear the belief that money is love, because its not helping me be happy.
I choose to now delete this belief that is not serving me, and is not true, and has actually hurt me and has burdened my money.
this false belief
its all wrong
and I don’t like it
in fact I am changing that belief now,
I am tapping this away daily, I am clearing this limiting belief, I am releasing this belief,
this belief, I am releasing it because I now see clearly what is going on– its my child mind thinking money is love, and I am now a grown up and I know better,
I choose to release this belief and release money from the burden of being something it is not.
I am thankful I have found this belief, and I now release it.
This tapping may bring up a lot of emotions. Just keep tapping, take it easy, and get support from a trained EFT practitioner if needed.
*If you are not familiar with tapping, and need to know the points please go to www.ttapt.com
Note: EFT, often called Tapping often brings up other emotions. By doing this you take full responsibility for your health and wellness. If you feel more stressed, please continue to tap, and ask for help from a trained EFT person.